Mouth Off Monday: "You're So Quiet!"

Look at that, it's Monday again...which means it's time for another edition of Mouth Off Monday! This is where you can read my ramblings on a variety of topics, school and non-school related. Feel free to link back and mouth off as well, or mouth off in the comments! Venting is good for the soul!

This week's topic will be near and dear to any of my fellow introverts. I know we have all been there. You're at a party, enjoying yourself. You're hanging out with a group of people, listening to the conversation, having a good time. All of a sudden, someone has to ruin it for you. They do this by turning to you and saying the most annoying phrase on the planet:

"YOU'RE. SO. QUIET."

...and with that, the good time is gone. You feel like a specimen being examined. You were relaxed, and now you're self-conscious. You want to curl up into a ball and disappear. But you can't, because the offender who uttered the phrase keeps going. "Are you shy?" "Aren't you having a good time?" "It's OK, you're allowed to speak!"

I know people who aren't introverted have trouble understanding just what is so annoying about people saying this to you. Let's take the situation and flip it, shall we? Here goes:

"Oh my goodness, you are so LOUD! Has anyone ever told you how LOUD you are? It's like you never shut up! Do you really have to say every single thing that comes to mind? It's OK to take a breath, you know. Gosh, it's really weird how LOUD you are!"

Ever heard that at a social situation? Bet you haven't, because it would be rude.

Some people are just naturally quiet. We enjoy being part of the conversation without necessarily...being part of the conversation, if you get my meaning. A lot of people confuse quiet with "shy." Trust me, if I have something to say, it will come out. If I'm around people I'm comfortable with, I have many things to say.

Fellow quiet people: I've found that a highly sarcastic "My goodness, I've never heard that one before!" usually shuts people up. Try it out sometime.

I've learned to embrace all of my little personality quirks, and I know my main one is that I will always be more comfortable writing words than speaking them. It took me thirty-something years, but I no longer apologize for the things that make me who I am.

Got anything you want to mouth off about? Share in the comments or link back!



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